Sometimes you hear something that sets your blood on fire (Well, hello there, Rage Fever), as a teacher of words and a feminist, “bossy” will do it just bout every time.
References:
Conger, Cristen and Caroline Ervin. “Why is bossy a bad word?” Stuff Mom Never Told You. How Stuff Works. https://www.stuffmomnevertoldyou.com/podcasts/why-is-bossy-a-bad-word.htm
Atlantic think pieces on “bossy”?: http://lmgtfy.com/?q=the+atlantic+bossy